Mental Health Days for Moms.

I'm exhausted. I am sitting here full of tasty grilled steak fajita and mango salsa [I made that steak like a boss], propping my feet donning ankle weights like a true girl from the 80's on my faux fur ottoman, coming to you in real time. 

I wish there was a picture of this situation, but thank god there isn't. 

I am counting the minutes till bed time for the little boos so I can put on my nightly sheet mask, edit some wonderful family images from last week, and force my husband to watch Baywatch against his will. 

At the moment I am watching Chicken Little, watching a toddler pretend to shit on his toilet and listening to a preteen tell me how her mouth hurts.... she just had her braces tightened. 

It's fine... it is totally fine. I am just TIRED. AF.

BUT I wanted to drop some parenting advice on all my fellow moms.....

I like to call this segment the 'Stop trying so hard and you'll love yourself a lot more....' 

[as long as you stop giving a f*ck about what anyone thinks]

1. Sometimes it is worth it to say no. Say no to your kids. Say no to your family. Say no to your friends. And most importantly, say NO to yourself. NO, you don't have to do a damn thing today. Or tomorrow. 

2. Sometimes Netflix can help you parent, and that doesn't make you a bad mom. 

3. I make BOTH my kids, 3 and 10, take 1.5 hours of chill/nap time every single day. After lunch they know the rules, you can read, play quietly in your room, etc but it is 'reset' time. 

-this does two things, first it helps me have time to clean up from the first half of the day.... and second it gives them time to reset for their second half of the day.... it has almost eliminated meltdowns completely with the Toddler. 

4. Take the shower. I know, that sounds stupid. But it's not. You are allowed to take a shower, wash your hair, wash your face and the kids can yell at you the whole time, but at least you're clean. You chose you, and I'm proud of you. 

5. Stop spending time with people that make you feel bad. I used to choose to spend time with a few people that just were MISERABLE to be around, they complained, they bitched, and they would talk poorly about other when they weren't around. I would go home drained but I always felt I had to continue to have them in my life for whatever reason. [and trust me I am far from perfect and have been miserable to be around MANY times... I just don't want to continue to be that person]

-And then I stopped spending time with them. 

-And at first I was lonely

-And then I wasn't

-And I am SO much happier

I LOVE every single person I spend time with now. I wish I could spend more time and had more hours in the day for the people in my life. [and I am so grateful they put up with me]

Give yourself the gift of selection. 

It's empowering. 

And even if you don't believe in energy, spirituality, vibrations, chakras, etc [I do] believe in you enough to allow yourself peace. 

Well, in the span of this blog:

I moved myself from Chicken Little and am now resting under a big oak tree loving on this breeze and feeling almost overwhelmed with happiness and guess what? I'm not tired anymore. I moved my energy into a peaceful place and I am IN IT. 

The kids are fed, even dessert, they are happy, they are playing... and I am happy in my own reset. 

Anyway, this isn't a brag thing, this is a join me thing. 

You're way to hard on yourself. 

Yes, you.

Stop it. 

I mean it.

Now.

Love you. 

Proof they have survived me saying no, me taking a shower, and even 'chill' time.

 

#basic

It's been a hot minute. 

I was a busy week and I am finally laying down to relax.... which is a joke because I have a three year old laying on me asking me about wet hair, showers and why I don't take showers with him. 

Now he is crying because I told him to watch a movie with his sister.... I am A MONSTER. 

Toddlers, man.... they are something.

Fast forward 23 minutes.

Well.... I just sent both my children upstairs. I am done with them. 

I just can't handle the constant tattling, screaming, and uncontrollable crap that comes out of my precious, close to perfection children sometimes. 

BUT.

BUT.

Tomorrow is a new day....

TOMORROW is CAMP day.

And this girl cannot wait for tomorrow.

I love my children. SO. MUCH. But after a week of stay-cation with all four of us, I am ready for life to not be events, fun, and togetherness. I'm ready for laundry time and normalcy and work. 

JUDGE ME.... 

[You obviously don't have children]

[Or you're Satan]

I don't discriminate either way.... but I see you.

So, this week.... it was 4th of July week and let me tell ya, it's a tiring situation with kids and WE are extra parents and we have to do all the things. [points to overachieving husband] 

Back in my day we pulled up to an alley down town Indy, sat on the top of a mini van and watched fireworks and we liked it. WE HAD TO LIKE IT. We didn't need parades and full days planned around spoiling children...... they have NO idea how lucky they are. 

AN ALLEY.

DOWNTOWN.

ON A MINI VAN.

WITH NO SNACKS.

FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS FOR ME.

#entitled

#millennial 

#merica